Stop Staring at Metaphorical Alligators
Face down your fears to pursue what you love.
The same is true with your career.
You must avoid staring at your metaphorical alligators, and instead stay focused on your supporting plank, which in careerland is composed of two strong fibers:
1. Your confidence: What you know you have going for you
2. Your passion: What you know you really want
Quick confession: When I worked in advertising, I was always threatening to quit my high-paying, high-stressing, low-free-time job to pursue my true passion for writing.
But I was like the girl who cried wolf. Always saying I was going to quit, but not doing it. Admittedly I was full of fear.
Not just about the money angle.
I feared letting go of a lovely fantasy about a parallel universe in which I existed as "Happy-Go-Lucky Author Girl." I was afraid to potentially risk giving up this fantasy -- in case my fantasy didn't come true.
When I finally quit my ad career, it was because I stopped staring at my metaphorical alligators: I'll never be a published book author! Heck, I've never even written one itty bitty magazine piece! What will I do for income if I fail -- after all, I have a child to support!
Instead, I focused on my supporting plank: My confidence (in my writing skills, discipline, persistence, resilience, optimism, ability to meet people, learn quickly, and follow-through) and my passion (my excitement to be a writer in a big-time way!)
Golden Touch Assignment
1. Don't Let Fear Inter-Fear with You Swimming in New Career Waters
Write up two lists on a small card of all the many reasons why you should feel tremendous confidence and passion to go for your goal. Put this card in your wallet -- where all your money is! Whenever fear strikes, strike back with these lists!
2. Hearing is Believing
Every time you do something amazing, leave yourself a voicemail about how amazing you are; then save it. Play it back to yourself when fear rears its ugly head so you can hear this self-loving voice in your head instead!
3. Go on a Negative Media Detox Diet
Watch how much negative media you take in, especially right before bedtime. Studies show people sleep better when they have less news intake late at night. Also, keep in mind that the media knows "Fear sells!" Nothing increases viewers and readers like a good disaster story. Unfortunately, these negative media stories also increase your personal worry, anxiety, and negativity about your career. And fear and anxiety can erode the golden optimism of your "golden mindset." You must refuse to let fear and anxiety erode your golden mindset!
It's your choice what you choose to focus your attention on within a day. You can -- and must -- decisively read the news with the goal of being cheered up, empowered, and educated. How? You can choose to read with the conscious attention -- and intention -- of finding money-making opportunities. Search for stories of people who are succeeding against all odds.
Plus, look for successful people in your own life. Spend time with them. Their fearlessness and wisdom are contagious.
© Karen Salmansohn
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