Why Your Worst Critics Are Your Best Friends
Stop avoiding short-term pain and focus on a brighter future.
For example: If you have a problem with a smear of ink being on your nose or cheek, you won't be able to see it yourself. The only way you'll know is if someone else tells you. Ditto if you have a problem with being too damned cheeky at meetings. You won't know unless someone tells you.
The harsh facts of life: You must be willing to face the harsh truths about how you must grow as a person if you hope to grow your income!
In the very same way Jim Collins says facing harsh truths helps a company go from good to great -- from Tandy to Apple (AAPL), say, or from Commodore to Microsoft (MSFT) -- you will go from a good money maker to a great money-maker if you face your personal harsh truths -- because being GREAT makes more money than being GOOD. Which brings us to a very important Golden Touch Rule:
Always seek criticism as much as compliments.
Success is not just about recognizing what you're fabulous at – and doing more of it. It's also important to recognize your weaknesses -- your blind spots -- and do less of them as well.
Madeleine L. Van Hecke, PhD, author of Blind Spots: Why Smart People Do Dumb Things, explains that for the very same reasons you can read this gobbledy-gook below you will also be destined to repeatedly do dumb things.
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Could you read that? Most people can. An adult's brain has built-in beliefs about how words should be -- and so the human brain fills in the gaps with what it already knows.
Similarly, an adult's brain has built-in beliefs on a great many subjects -- and tends to quickly fill in missing gaps of knowledge with what it already knows -- naturally seeking to find a familiar order in all chaos -- thereby seeing known spots of information instead of blind spots of information.
The solution to seeing your blind spots? You must consciously harness what's known as "Beginner's Mind" - where you are open to looking at new ways of seeing who you are and the problems you attract.
© Karen Salmansohn
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